Some of us can.

C: {criticizing A for a day-long tantrum}

Me: Yeah, but it helps to remember that YOU may have had some similar behavior at that age.

C {nodding}: And now we can all laugh about it.

Yeah, but you’ve pulled it together since then, right?

E: {pointing at her mom’s tummy} When I came out of there, I didn’t know WHAT I was thinking.